I know this is weird, but someone whom I follow, I recently discovered had an OF.
Now I’m not knocking them for it. It’s just that everything they present to the public is the complete opposite of someone whom (purely in my opinion) would never do something like that.
I dunno it’s just something odd I wasn’t expecting.
*Edit: Fuck it. It’s Alice Winterhold. There. Are you happy now? Perhaps you’ll understand now…
Your mind filled in a lot of gaps of who this other person is, based on what you knew based on just a narrow part of their life. It doesn’t sound like you have an issue with them having an OF, I think it’s an important distinction that you understand what was in your mind is what was odd, as the picture you had of them was so inaccurate.
They aren’t doing anything odd, since it is who they are. It’s just them. You don’t know why they’re doing it. They may like it, they may hate it and are doing it to cover bills or something. While you now know more about them, you still don’t know them as a whole person.
Thinking about people we like, respect, etc having sex is just not something most people typically do. Most everyone has sex though. Our parents, neighbors, celebrities, church people, racists, influencers, news anchors, etc. It’s just we think of all those people in other scenarios first before we think of them doing the nasty. You just basically walked in on someone while they were in the act and now it’s gotten your mind scattered.
If you follow them and this has affected you, you obviously like and respect them. That probably means watching their OF isn’t the best idea if you want to continue thinking of them the way you were before. You’ve just seen a more intimate side of them now, and you can remind yourself there is more to them than just what you have seen so far.
I’m a bit tired, so I hope that all made sense!
OK to give some background, This person kept coming up in my suggestions. I liked what they put out and followed them. they recently had an account ban on Facebook for some weird reason and they mentioned “The other site” which we all know is code word for OF (or other sites of that variety.) All I did was click on their bio link and BAM there it was. as I said to another post, it was like finding out Mother Theresa has an OF. thats sort of the same vibe this person presents. Again I don’t care they have one. I’m just surprised is all.
All kinda of people have one, not sexual content.
I hope I didn’t imply you did anything wrong in being shocked by what you found out. It seems a pretty normal reaction.
Does them having an OF make what you originally enjoyed of them feel hypocritical? Like if they were for example promoting abstinence, some type of morality, or where they playing up their supposed innocence? Or is it more like, I thought this person wouldn’t do something like this publicly? If they got banned for promoting their OF, did you miss it up until now? Or is this more like in the news where a school finds out a teacher has an OF and fires them when it doesn’t have anything to do with their other gig?
I understand you being intentionally vague, but it kinda makes it hard to pin down why you are feeling off about the whole situation or what you’re looking to get back from us.
People online are both real and fake, and my original comment tried to say that. I try to come off very polite and educational here. That’s definitely a good part of the real me. But there’s a lot more to me. There’s a lot more than I won’t always put front and center, but I’ll open up if it’s relevant, like all the terrible shit I did to people before I got medicated or from being raised by a kind of crappy family and I had no empathy for a long time. I still have a lot of difficulties, and while I can be a chronically depressed introvert with no ambition or self esteem, I can also be a positive and outgoing educator or comedian. They’re both me. Sometimes I’m more one or the other or even both at once. T
his person you’re talking about can be the same. They can be formal and proper or whatever the opposite of their OF persona is, and then do crazy extreme stuff in the OF context. They’ve understood and accepted those parts of themselves, and they’re not only doing the one thing that caught your interest, but also another totally different thing for another group.
If you just take whatever time for you to process that both realities exist within that person, you will know if they’re someone you still wish to follow or not.
I’m still following them, them doing OF isn’t a problem just a surprise. Imagine following someone who presents to the world like the most shy OCD anti-social person on earth.
But then does OF. I’m sure it would surprise anybody