my lover is a very high iq person (140) and he’s so awesome and yea has a lot of knowlegde about a lot of things, but recently i took an iq test and i got 85, it sucks, i told him that i hope that does not affect any aspect of our relationship!! and i’m not going to sugar code it but honestly i think that difference does cause a bit of trouble in our relationship because i am aware that my low iq may cause problems or it could make him feel annoyed/bothered!! what can i do to improve that?? i love him so much and i don’t want him to feel like i don’t understand him, sometiems i don’t a lot but, i always understand the general idea of the stuff he likes and i’m always seeking out more knowledge from him and the wider internet. thank you!!!
edit: i’ve always thought i was 100 or 150+ iq because i am interested in open source software, linux, foss, gnu, the fediverse, and reading, etc!! programming too
I find differences in intelligence alone often aren’t the issue. It’s more the difference in curiosity. Highly intelligent people tend to be naturally curious and always looking to understand and learn more about things. Less intelligent people tend to do that much less if at all.
I had an ex that was much smarter than me academically speaking (she always had higher grades), but we ended up being incompatible because she just lacked the same level of curiosity or drive to understand things on a day to day level. She greatly lacked common sense and critical thinking.
We still talk often and she asks me for help explaining things that school doesn’t teach people and I need her help with basic algebra sometimes.
IQ was always flawed and will always be flawed. Can’t judge a fishes intelligence on its ability to climb a tree n all that.
I’m a fucking moron but I tend to score 120+ on all those stupid online “IQ tests” because I am very good with multiple choice questions and pattern recognition.
If you love the guy and you’re happy don’t let some bullshit IQ tests fuck that up.