You gotta walk your own path.
Most people know exactly what they have to do to obtain a skill, start a business, make a friend, experience and adventure but simply don’t out of fear of the unknown.
The Internet is helpful but you got to put stock in your own lived experience.
Batman in an interrogation room pins joker to the wall.
Batman: “I’ve only got one rule”
Joker: “Then that’s the rule you’re gonna have to break to get what you want”.
Now I hate Marvell and all super hero movies but I do find that quote applies to a lot of things.
If you’re truthful or law abiding then law breakers have an advantage on you. They’ll try and undermine free and fair elections.
If you’re a pacifist then people will use violence to try and control you, such as terrorism, or simply ignore your laws.
If you have socialism then people will pour in from other countries or try to exploit the system in whatever they can.
If the police or strict or lax in either direction it causes upset.
Whatever you say is a law, or a line you won’t cross, is something that people will exploit.